Do any of you have someone who is (not so secretly) jealous of your weight loss?
I do. My sister and a friend of mine.
My sister has struggled with her weight all of her life and has tried every diet know to man, not to mention diet pills and herbal remedies. She isn't willing to do the work (counting calories and exercising) and never loses weight to speak of yet she is constantly "on a diet." She just had two knees replaced due to her obesity and still has changed nothing about her lifestyle. At this point, I think she's in denial. Occasionally she'll ask me how I'm doing with my weight loss and when I tell her she doesn't say much. When I hit the 30 pound lost mark she just said, "Good for you" but I could hear the jealousy in her voice and she quickly changed the subject. I know that she wants me to remain fat right along with her.
The friend that I mentioned is obese and is the woman that I used to walk with back in late winter/early spring. She is oblivious about what it takes to lose weight and, also, unwilling to do the work. We walked together for about 3 months and then she stopped because she wasn't seeing results and got discouraged. She admitted that she thought with just walking alone (and not getting her food in check) she thought that the weight would "just melt off" (her exact words). After we quit walking I went on to lose 30 pounds and she remains the same, if not heavier. She is another one that I can just tell by her tone that she is jealous.
I think the real reason that people get so jealous is because they are disappointed in themselves and when they see someone else losing weight and starting to look and feel good, it makes them take a good look at themselves and they don't want to deal with it or do the work that it takes so it comes out as jealousy. Makes me want to leave them in my fat dust clouds ;)
Have any of you had someone jealous of your weight loss?
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I'm still covering two offices. Ugh. One good thing is that I'm leaving work an hour early today and meeting my DD for dinner...not sure where yet, though.
I bought a larger data package for my ipad today so I will have connectivity at home :)
I'm back down to 227. Finally.
Make it a great day!
If they are jealous, they know me well enough to mask it well. LOL!
ReplyDeleteI have seen comments online that vaguely reference me and my passion for the way I eat now. Whatev's. Their issues, not mine. It's easy enough NOT to visit a person's website. (and them...mine. )
I know we've discussed your sister in this regard in the past, and it's really sad. Sad because she is a person you have to deal with. But the truth is, we can lead horses to water, but we can't make them drink. Everyone has to hit their own rock bottom, and no one can rush that process. All we can do is hopefully lead by example. :: hugs ::
Couldn't have said it any better than Gwen.
ReplyDeleteAs for your sister, well you sort of have no choice there, but as for the co-worker, well I feel the friendship may fall apart in due time.
Are these people supportive??? I hope for your sake...yes.
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ReplyDeleteWell I have someone in my life that is at least 100 pounds over his ideal weight. He has type II diabetes, high blood pressure, untreated sleep apnea, an eye ball stroke, a diabetic ulcer on his foot, and other health issues. He also quit talking to me last February. Out of my four...he was always the most sensitive one as a child. I don't think he's jealous. He just really gets annoyed/angry with his old man, when I cross the line from encouragement to lecturing. The silent treatment isn't getting him healthy either. Dad needs to learn to zip it, but I hate watching a train wreck without trying to warn the engineer. He's 34 years old and can make his own life decisions. I just hate to think he'd deliberately choose bad ones just to spite me.
I'd have to lose weight before anyone could get jealous, but I understand what you're talking about. I think for many it is as you described that they are disappointed in themselves which make it hard for them to cheer for your success. Keep going though, many others will cheer...including me.
ReplyDeleteEh, being jealous is a waste of time! I admire people who can lose the weight and keep it off. Me, I'm still trying to figure this thing out! :p
ReplyDeleteI've had many kind comments, but if some people are jealous, they're keeping quiet about it. I generally don't like attention focused on me, so I don't really talk about my weight loss, or make comments about my food choices, etc.
ReplyDeleteGwen commented that we can hopefully just lead by example, and I hope that's the case with one friend of mine who has been severely overweight for years. She has a bad knee and it keeps her from doing all sorts of activities and has been putting of surgery for years.