I went to the grocery and loaded up on lots of fresh produce. I can't wait until the farm stands open up with fresh local produce. Love it! For my lunch today I packed ham and cheese (no bread!), fresh vegetables and an orange. I'm going to try to up my water intake also.
Last evening DD and I walked 4 miles at a park that has several hills so I got in a good workout while we visited. I blew off walking buddy to walk with DD. Walking buddy has been on my nerves lately just in general. People get on my nerves too quickly and I'm mostly satisfied to walk alone with my own thoughts at my own pace instead of making stupid small talk about things that I could care less about. I feel like WB is holding me back, plus, she brings her dog every. single. time. UGH! Of course, she thinks it's cute, but to me it's just a distraction. I've tried to help her along on her weight loss journey but it seems all she wants to do it walk (which is still good) but she still eats what ever she wants (supposedly just cutting portions back) and expects to lose weight. She told me that she thought that since she's never exercised before she thought that when she started walking that the weight would just melt off. OBLIVIOUS! I tried to explain it to her w/o being too preachy but she just doesn't get it. She's also been making some very poor choices in her personal life that I don't agree with. I knew that starting to walk with her would quickly become a chore. The thing of it is, if I tell her that I want to exercise alone we will most likely end up at the same places and it will be awkward. I still want to be her friend but I just want to pull way back and to stop the walking with her. I'll just pull back and then hopefully she will eventually get the clue and stop asking. (Right now I don't ever ask her to walk, she asks me every single time.) I wish I would have never started this. I am a loner and she is one of those needy people that always has to be around somebody.
I probably sound like a total bitch but I like to surround myself with like-minded people that can help me to rise higher - someone that I can learn something from (like the people here) - and WB is not it. I've heard the saying before - If you are the smartest person in your circle of friends, then you need to expand your circle of friends.
Do you like to exercise alone or with a buddy?
Sunny, I am EXACTLY like you. I totally prefer to exercise alone. And I have 3 dogs and I prefer to take none of them when it's an exercise walk, because they like to stop to sniff, etc., and I don't want my mojo broken by that. I'm a terrible dog mommy! LOL Just maybe tell a little white lie that you are wanting to really pump up your speed and/or distance, and you need to do this on your own pace, and need to be alone. Tell her maybe once a month you guys can get together and walk, so you don't shut her out entirely. Then walk your regular route, and if you see her, wave 'gayly' at her. She'll get over it. And you will be true to you. :)
ReplyDeleteAND YAY re all the great fresh produce you bought!!! :D
Gwen - thatnks fort he great advice. ;)
ReplyDeleteMe, too, sister, me, too. People wear me out with the quickness. In fact, that's been my big struggle with yoga--people bother me. When I swam, I was in my own head; when I ran, I was in my own head. I like my own head. Of course, I like yoga and it's helped, but I can't do it everyday--I think my max would be three times a week.
ReplyDeleteI say, walk with WB once or twice a week, but then do your own thing. Walk at the same place? Keep your earbuds in and just smile as you sashay on past her--oh, and go in the opposite direction, so she can't keep up. If she pushes you for an explanation, just tell her you've made a decision to get into your own head.
Mel - More great advice from you - thanks! Sounds like we're all of a like mind.
ReplyDeleteI'm the same way. I can't walk with anybody except Mac, my husband. He lets me set the pace and he doesn't babble, so it works. Of course we've been walking together for about 45 years so I've got him well trained. :) But if he isn't around, then I'm perfectly happy to be by myself.
ReplyDeleteI like exercise classes, and obviously that's not alone, but I don't go with a buddy, or do non-class workouts with a buddy. I prefer to go it alone and not be on anyone else's schedule.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely cut back on the walks w/ WB, and if she questions it, just be honest and say you realized you really need the alone time to clear your head, do your thinking, etc. It's challenging enough to keep focus on your own exercise goals, let alone be annoyed about how your friend is or isn't trying very hard...